With all of the stress people are under, all of the mourning and grief, a few tricks from my physical therapist in order to help you relax.
You can do this sitting in a chair or lying flat on your back.
Let your legs relax. Flex your toes just a little. This seems counterintuitive, I know. But trust me. I’ll explain in a minute what she told me.
Let your hands turn out to your sides, palm up, naturally extended and floppy. Think of it like you are doing a ‘saint pose’ on a stained glass window and showing us your palms.
Turn your head slightly to the side. Don’t crank it to the side, just let it relax to one side. Doesn’t matter which one, whichever is more comfy.
Now. Take several long, slow belly breaths, while holding your pose. Don’t flex your toes hard, just enough to be flexing them a little.
After ten long slow breaths, in through your nose and out through your mouth, filling your lungs up and letting your belly rise and fall, just relax everything. All floppy.
Now. What this does – according to her – is it very specifically goes against every piece of fight-or-flight body posture. You’re facing off to the side, your hands are open and your toes are flexed a little – ever try to run with your feet like that? You can’t do it very well.
She taught me this as a way to help decrease my pain by turning down my tension, but I hope it helps others let go of their hurt for a little while.
I’ve seen potions that can fix (and even grow) bones. I’ve witnessed candies that blow smoke out of your ears and fountain drinks that change your voice. Hell, I’ve even watched in shock as a witch completely changed her own appearance by thought alone… Seriously Jessica, you should warn I guy before you do that.
But in all my years in this Earth I have never witnessed anything as shocking as what I saw in person today. A wizard living just off the main drag of Hogsmeade has a fully functional, all original, 1983 Apple Lisa home computer. To top it off, he is still using it as his dedicated device.
we all know john and sherlock are gonna kiss, but consider this: kiss scene bloopers.
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Their noses bump. Ben bursts into hysterical giggles. Martin sighs and crosses his arms, waiting patiently (in character) for Ben to stop. Finally he says, “Are you nearly done, sweetheart?”
They have another go, but as soon as their lips touch, Ben has to sneeze. He pulls away quickly, apologizing all the way. Martin sits this time.
They get it going at last. Without thinking, Ben’s hands drift to Martin’s butt. Martin is caught off guard and breaks the kiss. “Oi–buy me dinner first! Bloody cheek!”
Martin tries something different in the next take–a little moan. This time, Gatiss (who is just off camera with headphones on) bursts out laughing. Martin throws his hands up in despair.
They try again, but they just can’t get coordinated. Hands are at cross purposes and heads are tilting in the same direction. As they both try to correct, the head bobbing becomes comical and Martin starts spontaneously break-dancing. Ben follows suit. Someone on the crew finds music and turns it up.
Sue calls lunch.
Finally, two hours later, it all just *clicks* They kiss so softly, so passionately and so beautifully that when they finally part to gaze at each other, there is utter silence in the room for several minutes afterward. You can hear a pin drop until finally Kevin (the new grip) just kind of wheezes and blurts out “Well, fuck me.”
Watching
Han get murdered by his son changes the direction of Finn’s life as
radically as his decision not to shoot at Tuanul did. It is in that
instance he goes from “I’ll help get the shields down because it’s
the right thing to do, but mainly I’m here for Rey and when we’re
done I’m outta here” to “Okay, I’m done. I’m fighting back!”
You
see the change written clear as daylight on his face on his face
after Han’s murder.
From
shock and horror.
Into grief and angry determination.
When
Kylo flings Rey into a tree and yells “traitor!” at Finn it
further cements his decision to fight. But the choice itself was
already made before that moment.
That
Han’s death has this tremendous impact on Finn should not come as a
surprise.
Overall
Solo treats him and Rey kindly – thanks Finn for helping Chewie,
offers Rey a job, and after Finn makes it clear that he’s leaving
Solo doesn’t judge him and tells to keep the rifle – which I doubt
is something that Finn is used to.
Clearly Solo is a man he knows about and has admired. When they’re “introduced”, Finn speaks of him as the “Rebellion General” in a tone that is entirely favorable.
But still Han is a man who isn’t perfect, he too is running away, but after Takodana Solo rallies and tries to do the right thing.
So
I think in Han, Finn sees both something of a farther figure, as well
as a man not unlike himself.
But
this alone is not the entire reason why Finn reacts so strongly to
Han being murdered that it changes his path, the context of how the man is killed is equally
important.
Finn
is not a man to bemoan his fate or part, or wish for things to be
different than they are, but you can’t tell me that somewhere deep
down Finn isn’t wishing that someone – anyone – had come along
and offered him a way out of the First Order. Instead he had to rely
on luck and the kindness and understanding of strangers when he
escaped. He was lucky with the people he met and he knows that.
And
here is Kylo, being offered this exact thing. Han says to his
son “come home, we miss you” and for that Kylo murders him.
From
that moment on there is no option but war between the two of them as far
as Finn is concerned. Finn might have been able to accept Kylo
refusing the offer – even if he would never understand why – but when
Kylo kills Han, Finn forever becomes his enemy.
So
when Kylo Ren confronts Finn out in the forest and arrogantly tries
to claim part of his heritage after murderously having rejected
another part, Finn has only one answer for him. An angry and defiant
