Okay, so! It’s no mystery that MCU Steve was a complete dork when it came to women. He didn’t know how to handle them. In The First Avenger, Bucky takes him on a double date where Steve gets snubbed by the girl.
The thing is that Steve never once blamed the woman for snubbing him. He never once wondered why she didn’t fall into his arms. Instead, he looked at himself and most likely found himself lacking. He knew she wasn’t interested so when Bucky asked if he was going dancing, Steve said no. He wasn’t going to push himself on her if she didn’t want it.
You do have to wonder what this did to his own self-esteem though. He didn’t wonder what was wrong with her. He must have wondered what was wrong with him.
Later, he tells Peggy, after she mentions that he has no idea how to talk to a woman, that that was the longest conversation he’s ever had with one. That simple line can tell us so much about Steve Roger and women. He’s not used to women even giving him the time of day.
We talk about how Peggy fell in love with Steve before the serum. How she saw him for who he really was, all two left feet and foot in mouth, and still you can see that this is the man she fell for.
We don’t talk nearly enough about the fact that Steve fell in love with Peggy for this same reason – she saw him when he was still a skinny little punk willing to do whatever it took to help. But he still has this confidence issue when it comes to accepting that someone like her could like someone like him. He must have seen that she was out of his league.
Later, we see another female worker hit on Steve, post-serum. Steve doesn’t know how to respond to this. He doesn’t understand. He shrinks in on himself. Again, he doesn’t understand what these beautiful women see in him.
Steve has a lot of self-confidence issues in this area, and dealing with women in particular. You can see Steve stand up to another man twice his size, punk complete male strangers on the street, and joke with scientists and soldiers alike.
But women shatter that confidence he has.
I think Peggy went a long way to helping with that. She loved him before he was big. She loved Steve because of his personality.
Present day, I think Steve still struggles with this a bit. Natasha tries to set him up (wait, didn’t Bucky try that too???), but Steve makes excuses for why he can’t. He’s not ready he says.
Even when he asks Sharon out, he doesn’t look at her. He expects her to say no or laugh or give him a disgusted look. And she does turn him down and you can see he’s disappointed but, again, he doesn’t blame her. He accepts her initial rejection.
And when she gives a tentative approval for a ‘next time’, you can see that glimmer of hope.
Later he confesses to Natasha that he has tried dating. He says that wasn’t his first kiss since he was pulled out of the ice. And we aren’t treated to see why nothing has worked out or to see those instances. Natasha teases him and he just makes another excuse about it being difficult to find someone with shared life experience.
And he’s not wrong, but I think that there’s still that constant nagging thought at the back of his mind of why would anyone want him, and the thought that if he wasn’t Captain America, would any of them even give him a second look?
The biggest tragedy of Doctor Who for me is the fact that Jack never met the Ponds.
I mean, he would have liked Eleven and Amy.
But RORY.
He would have PURSUED Rory to the ends of the universe, and Rory would just be really confused and Amy would get super overprotective
“Captain Jack Harkness, and who are you?”
“HE’S MARRIED”
can you understand why I need this
Always headcanoned that jack and Rory met when he was protecting the pandorica as the last centurion and the memories did transfer over the reset universe.
#hes married #i love it #and then jacks like threesome? #and amys like maybe #and rorys just like ?!?!?! (via awabubbles)
NIKOLA TESLA IS SUPER ADORABLE HE’S JUST WANDERING AROUND AND HIDING UNDER THINGS I’M GONNA SQUEAL
I should probably specify that Nikola Tesla is a cat and Serbian-American inventor Nikola Tesla is not wandering around my house hiding under things because he is dead
I like the implication that if he were not dead he probably would be wandering around your house hiding under things
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Ultimately, your child is going to live into their identity one way or the other, and I hope it will be a luxuriantly long life they get to enjoy and not the kind tragically clipped short by despair. You can’t change your kid, no matter what kinds of fears you have. What you’re choosing now is whether you get to be the parent of “my folks were really supportive,” or whether you’re five years, ten at the most, away from “my parents and I don’t really talk.” Your children might turn out to be transsexual or transgender or genderqueer. Or they might be gay or lesbian or the other kind of queer or something else festive and new in the world of gender and/or sexual orientation. That part is not up to you. It wasn’t up to you before they came out and it isn’t up to you now, either. I know that’s hard news, but it’s the truth.
I also understand that it might seem like making them hide and pretend and lie is the right answer because they’ll get less static in the world. It might seem safer in the short run. It might seem like a way of protecting your kid. But really, if you don’t hear anything else, please hear this: that’s how you make a kid ashamed of themselves. That’s how kids get the message that their parents are ashamed of them and regret that they were born. A kid who gets bullied or taunted at school but feels loved and cherished at home (and gets to see positive images of other trans/gender-independent kids, of which there are many) will grow into a well and whole adult so much more often than a kid who fits in with peers at school but lives every minute feeling like they’re an awful secret. That’s also the truth. That’s also the choice you’re making right now. Please, please, choose well.
S. Bear Bergman, “Dear Parents Who Have Written to Me” in Blood, Marriage, Wine and Glitter. (via nicejewishqueer)
