{"id":96068,"date":"2016-06-20T17:54:14","date_gmt":"2016-06-20T17:54:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/2016\/06\/20\/voroxpete-strongforanother\/"},"modified":"2016-06-20T17:54:14","modified_gmt":"2016-06-20T17:54:14","slug":"voroxpete-strongforanother","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/2016\/06\/20\/voroxpete-strongforanother\/","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"

voroxpete<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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strongforanother<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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fandomsandfeminism<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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I think we really need to reaffirm now that no amount of homophobia can be acceptable in our culture. There is no such this as harmless or victimless homophobia. All homophobia contributes to violence against us. You can not \u201cdisagree\u201d with lgbt people\u2019s \u201clifestyles\u201d without supporting the rhetoric and legislation that puts us in very real danger.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Homophobia isn\u2019t that black and white though. You can hate the sin and still love the sinner.\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

OK, as a queer person who grew up in a genuinely loving, caring, utterly wonderful, and still deeply homophobic Church, let me try to fill in what you\u2019re not understanding about this whole \u201cLove the sinner\u201d deal.<\/p>\n

When we refer to people like you as \u201cHomophobic\u201d I want to be clear what we\u2019re saying here.\u00a0 This is not a judgment of your intent.\u00a0 We are not describing you as a hateful person, as an aggressive or violent person.\u00a0 But we are saying that your actions and your attitudes participate in and reinforce a system of rhetoric that encourages violence against LGBT people, and, far, far <\/i>more importantly, that forces millions of LGBT people to live in shame.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s really what this comes down to.\u00a0 Not hate.\u00a0 Not violence.\u00a0 Shame.<\/p>\n

Consider the point purely theologically.\u00a0 Jesus tells us that to desire a sinful thing is as bad as to act on that desire.\u00a0 My lusting after another mans wife is as bad as actually sleeping with her.\u00a0 My genuine desire to hurt someone is as bad as actually hurting them.<\/p>\n

So when you tell me that loving another man is a sin, you\u2019re not just talking about physical acts of intimacy.\u00a0 You don\u2019t get to draw the line there.\u00a0 You don\u2019t get to pretend that I can be bisexual so long as I never actually physically act on it (which is already a terrible burden to place on someone).\u00a0 You\u2019re saying that every time I look at a guy and imagine how soft his lips would be, or think about how beautiful his eyes are, I am sinning.\u00a0 I am a sinner every time a dude walks past me with a tight sweater on that shows of his arms.\u00a0 Every time he has nice hair or a nice smile.<\/p>\n

My love, according to you, is a sin.\u00a0 That <\/i>is the burden you are forcing people to live under.\u00a0 That burden forced me so deep into the closet that I didn\u2019t even know I was there.\u00a0 It forced me to repress every genuine feeling of sexual attraction for other men, and to live for years with those feelings straining to get out, whilst I struggled with the constant guilt and shame that came from having those thoughts.<\/p>\n

And I am one of the lucky ones, because I\u2019m alive to have this conversation.\u00a0 Because for many, many LGBT people that guilt and shame manifests as self-harm, substance abuse, low esteem that leads them into abusive relationships, and very often suicide.<\/p>\n

You tell yourself that you\u2019re one of the good ones because you don\u2019t hate us.\u00a0 You only hate what we \u201cdo\u201d.\u00a0 But what we \u201cdo\u201d is living.\u00a0 It\u2019s being alive and whole and a part of this world, and if you genuinely believe that we can\u2019t have that then you might as well put the gun to our heads and pull the trigger.\u00a0 Because you\u2019re already doing that, you just don\u2019t have the guts to admit it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

voroxpete: strongforanother: fandomsandfeminism: I think we really need to reaffirm now that no amount of homophobia can be acceptable in our culture. There is no such this as harmless or victimless homophobia. All homophobia contributes to violence against us. You can not \u201cdisagree\u201d with lgbt people\u2019s \u201clifestyles\u201d without supporting the rhetoric and legislation that puts … <\/p>\n

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