{"id":276871,"date":"2018-11-24T14:08:54","date_gmt":"2018-11-24T14:08:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/2018\/11\/24\/dear-teenagers-and-young-adults-becoming-sexually-2\/"},"modified":"2018-11-24T14:08:54","modified_gmt":"2018-11-24T14:08:54","slug":"dear-teenagers-and-young-adults-becoming-sexually-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/2018\/11\/24\/dear-teenagers-and-young-adults-becoming-sexually-2\/","title":{"rendered":"DEAR TEENAGERS AND YOUNG ADULTS BECOMING SEXUALLY ACTIVE FOR THE FIRST TIME:"},"content":{"rendered":"

feminismandmedia<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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submissivejooheon<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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stregastyle<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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mettatonexox<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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abadmeanman<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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the-apples-were-monitored<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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flameysaur<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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latenightcornerstore<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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1. DEMAND condom use<\/b>
2. Hold your partners accountable<\/b> for what happens in the bedroom. None of this\u00a0\u201cbaby I can\u2019t control myself around you\u201d or\u00a0\u201cI just wanted you so bad\u201d bullshit.
3. Coercion is real<\/b> and it\u2019s very scary and hard to identify in the moment. Establish a dialogue with your partner. Be clear on what you both want. Be clear on what you don\u2019t<\/i> want. Your boundaries should ALWAYS be respected.
4. Sex can be really emotionally and physically over-stimulating<\/b> the first few times; don\u2019t be afraid or ashamed to ask your partner to slow down, take a break, or even stop.
5. Focus less on pleasing your partner and more on exploring your partner<\/b>. Everyone\u2019s body is different and there are no\u00a0\u201ctricks\u201d to better sex. Chances are, if you psych yourself out worrying over how well you\u2019re\u00a0\u201cperforming\u201d then nobody\u2019s going to have a good time.
6. Ask questions, offer suggestions.<\/b> Despite what porn has probably taught you, talking during sex isn\u2019t weird or taboo. Your partner isn\u2019t a mind reader. They don\u2019t know what feels good to you. [Pro-tip, a looot of people without clitorises aren\u2019t fully aware of just HOW sensitive a clitoris is. They can be a little rough with them. Tell them to chill!!!!]
7. Your sex life is YOUR business<\/b>. Don\u2019t ever feel ashamed of how many or how few sexual partners\/experiences you\u2019re having. Do what you want, touch the people who want to touch you back, forget the rest.
8. DON\u2019T FAKE YOUR ORGASMS!!<\/b> Don\u2019t fake your orgasms!! DON\u2019TFAKEYOURORGAMS!! If your partner isn\u2019t getting you there, let them know! Tell them how!!
9. There is more to sex than orgasms<\/b>. Sex is a really cool way to establish intimacy and trust, to have a fun time, to relieve stress, to explore a person\u2019s body and bring them pleasure. Don\u2019t get me wrong, orgasms are really cool and good, but your sex life is going to be a lot better if it doesn\u2019t revolve around them.
10. LEARN ABOUT YOUR BODY<\/b>!! This goes for everyone, but ESPECIALLY if you are a person in possession of a vulva, you have been discouraged and even actively kept from vital knowledge about your anatomy! Do some google searches, buy a human sexuality textbook, masturbate.
11. Virginity is a useless concept<\/b>. It\u2019s completely okay if your virginity is something important to you and I\u2019m not trying to belittle that idea. Just, for the record, in the grand scheme of things it\u2019s not a big deal. Literally nothing about you changes just because you bumped uglies with someone else.<\/p>\n

This has been a public service announcement from your friendly internet poet.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Talking about sex when not being sexy is the best first step to having sex. Don\u2019t talk about it to turn on your partner, just discuss it casual. Talk about your thoughts and feelings, what you think you want, what scares you, what interests you, etc. Like anything you can think of. It makes the act easier and can help you establish boundaries before the act starts. Try doing it on a phone or over text so you know sex won\u2019t start. Sometimes the distance helps you be honest.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

i like how positive this post is and how it isn\u2019t gender specific <3 <3 <3<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Some solid stuff here!<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Also: no matter what genitals you have or what you\u2019re doing, a little lube can go a LONG way and even be the difference between if sex will even happen or not. It\u2019s nothing to feel embarrassed about asking for, and even if you\u2019re not sure you\u2019d need it, it might make the experience more enjoyable faster than it would without.<\/p>\n

And don\u2019t neglect to clean up afterward!! This is really important, too.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

I\u2019d like to add don\u2019t worry if your virginity someone who turns out to be a jerk or wasn\u2019t the special experience you expected or wanted.<\/p>\n

This does not define you or your sexual journey and it is so common you\u2019re not weird for having a less than great first experience.<\/p>\n

To be perfectly honest even with the\u00a0\u2018right\u2019 person your first time will most definitely suck, sexually, it\u2019s all the times after getting to know what you and your partner like that is the best part.<\/p>\n

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p.s. also getting to point where your comfortable enough with your partner to roll around crying laughing when they fall of the bed cos it will happen mid-sexy times.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

as someone who has a really bad experience with her sex life, follow these advices. they are completely true and important to take in mind <3<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Also, from one person with a vagina to any others: not everyone bleeds the first time AND bleeding can happen any time you have sex or sexy alone times involving penetration.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Here [x]<\/a> is a list of reasons it may happen and suggestions about how to proceed\u2013a lot of times it\u2019s simply because of friction, which is why the point about lube is very important. Some of us learn these things the hard way and think we\u2019re marked for death, but you\u2019re most likely okay! Proceed with caution, but don\u2019t freak yourself out.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n

-mod Aleksandr\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

feminismandmedia: submissivejooheon: stregastyle: mettatonexox: abadmeanman: the-apples-were-monitored: flameysaur: latenightcornerstore: 1. DEMAND condom use2. Hold your partners accountable for what happens in the bedroom. None of this\u00a0\u201cbaby I can\u2019t control myself around you\u201d or\u00a0\u201cI just wanted you so bad\u201d bullshit.3. Coercion is real and it\u2019s very scary and hard to identify in the moment. Establish a dialogue … <\/p>\n

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