{"id":276263,"date":"2018-12-02T07:48:05","date_gmt":"2018-12-02T07:48:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/2018\/12\/02\/jenroses-feminismandmedia-dynamicsymmetry\/"},"modified":"2018-12-02T07:48:05","modified_gmt":"2018-12-02T07:48:05","slug":"jenroses-feminismandmedia-dynamicsymmetry","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/2018\/12\/02\/jenroses-feminismandmedia-dynamicsymmetry\/","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"

jenroses<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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feminismandmedia<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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dynamicsymmetry<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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thebestpersonherelovesbucky<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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noseforahtwo<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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thebaconsandwichofregret<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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kedreeva<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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noseforahtwo<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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As a chick married to an ex-cop, I say this all the time to people close to me, but it bears repeating here: No cop is your friend after you\u2019ve been detained.<\/p>\n

Get rear ended by a drunk at a red light? That cop will direct traffic around your vehicle, document the accident, sure. Call animal control on your piece of shit neighbor? You\u2019ve got a pretty good chance the officer who shows up helps out in a meaningful way.<\/p>\n

But after you\u2019ve been arrested, when a police officer says, \u201cJust be honest with me and I\u2019ll do the same.\u201d or the old \u201cHelp me and I\u2019ll help you.\u201d Politely ask for a lawyer. Shake your head. Ignore them. Pretend you\u2019re Hollywood royalty being asked for a selfie. \u201c \u2026mmmm\u2026 Sorry, but no.\u201d<\/p>\n

Keep your mouth shut. Don\u2019t do their work for them. Wait for a lawyer.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

I worked as a police dispatcher for a year and a half, and I\u2019d agree with this. My cops were generally nice people (and I say this having been on the wrong end of their sirens twice, once before and once after being hired), and they often helped in good ways\u2026 on the street. Not so much in the station. Generally speaking (and I know this is oversimplification and is worse in a lot of places but), it went like this: <\/p>\n

On the street, you were considered as a person\/citizen they have sworn to protect who may have made a mistake or done something wrong.<\/p>\n

Once you were in the station, you were considered as a criminal. In the station you are the only one on your side.<\/p>\n

Stay safe.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

TV and film has you thinking that only guilty people ask for a lawyer. This is not true. The law is complex and difficult and confusing and if you\u2019re being questioned by the police you\u2019re not going to be in your best state of mind. A lawyer is your basic civil right and you should exercise that right. Keep silent, ask for a lawyer, take your legal advice.<\/p>\n

Guilty people don\u2019t ask for a lawyer, smart people do.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

\u201cGuilty people don\u2019t ask for a lawyer, smart people do.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

My uncle was a cop. My uncle is the most down to earth, wouldn\u2019t hurt a fly person in the world. I don\u2019t think he even arrested a single person ever, that wasn\u2019t his job on the force. <\/p>\n

His advice? Get a fucking lawyer. Never say a damn word. A cop knows how to twist your words around and make you even doubt yourself. They know damn well how to make you feel guilty by getting a lawyer. YOU need to know that it\u2019s SMART to get a lawyer. Get a lawyer. <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

People can be convinced that they committed a non-existant crime in three hours.<\/a><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t say shit. Get a lawyer. <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

If you want to watch a show that shows people admitting to things they may not have done and the tactics involved, check out The Confession Tapes<\/a>. It\u2019s on Netflix.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

My husband is a defense attorney, and yeah, get a lawyer. There is no lawyer more expensive than not getting a lawyer in this kind of situation.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

jenroses: feminismandmedia: dynamicsymmetry: thebestpersonherelovesbucky: noseforahtwo: thebaconsandwichofregret: kedreeva: noseforahtwo: As a chick married to an ex-cop, I say this all the time to people close to me, but it bears repeating here: No cop is your friend after you\u2019ve been detained. Get rear ended by a drunk at a red light? That cop will direct traffic … <\/p>\n

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