{"id":187435,"date":"2014-10-09T02:32:00","date_gmt":"2014-10-09T02:32:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/2014\/10\/09\/beautifullyheeled-meanmisscharles\/"},"modified":"2014-10-09T02:32:00","modified_gmt":"2014-10-09T02:32:00","slug":"beautifullyheeled-meanmisscharles","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/2014\/10\/09\/beautifullyheeled-meanmisscharles\/","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"

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beautifullyheeled<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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meanmisscharles<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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beautifullyheeled<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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tiger-in-the-flightdeck<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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Don\u2019t do this.<\/p>\n

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Don\u2019t ever<\/strong> <\/em>do this. If you like something, fucking say it. Don\u2019t swear at a writer, and tell them you hate them.<\/p>\n

Someone had to talk me out of deleting my entire fucking ao3 account because of this shit. I haven\u2019t written anything new in months because of people thinking it\u2026<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Listen to me right fucking<\/em> now.<\/p>\n

I am done with this type of behavior.<\/p>\n

People who are on tumblr (which this is a tumblr specific type of hate(but really love) thing\u2026 KNOCK THIS THE FUCK OFF.<\/p>\n

Stop reading what we write.<\/p>\n

Seventeen. They could be thirty as well, as one was that flamed me over almost two years ago which brought me to a halt for a while. Point is age does not matter.<\/p>\n

THIS IS FUCKING BULLYING.<\/p>\n

THIS IS FUCKING MANIPULATION.<\/em><\/p>\n

THIS IS FUCKING ABUSE.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

This is not appropriate.<\/p>\n

This is not funny.<\/p>\n

We are people. HUMAN FUCKING BEINGS. We live and bleed and hurt and love so fucking passionately we feel the ever-loving fucking necessity to bleed words to paper, siphon our souls out in text, cry and rant through this medium.<\/p>\n

If you do this, stop following me. If I see you do this I will not only report you to AO3, I will put your name on a black list and spread it through the fandom. I am really sick and tired of people not being held accountable for this blatant asshattery.\u00a0<\/p>\n

FANDOM IS A SAFE FUCKING SPACE. THIS IS NOT CUTE. IT IS NOT OK. IT IS NEVER OK. EVER.\u00a0<\/p>\n

YOU garrulous twats are DRIVING people away from creating anything further for the fandom.<\/p>\n

STOP.<\/p>\n

(I love you tiger. You are one of the people that held my hand during that time whether you know it or not. You do not deserve this. ~Diann)<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

I agree with your righteous bullying rant, but fandom is questionable as hell as a safe space. People don\u2019t risk followers or likes for the hard stuff.<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n

BUT we should. I have fic I am in the middle of writing that is hard. I have written MCD, Rape, Abduction, Non-Con Prostitution. Do I all the time? No. It\u2019s not because of who-reads-what-with-me. It\u2019s what I feel needs to be published at that time. Does it ever feel safe? No.<\/p>\n

BUT<\/p>\n

It is a safe space. The reason it is is because we claim it as one.\u00a0<\/p>\n

If someone worries about losing followers or kudos, that is completely normal. Sometimes my stomach can\u2019t take it, but I do it anyway. Other writers within the fandom do it anyway.<\/p>\n

Artists too.<\/p>\n

If you have something you want written that is hard or difficult subject matter, approach me. I\u2019ll throw it in the queue to-be-written. I have friends that throw me stuff because they know I will handle it with sensitivity and I do not judge.\u00a0<\/p>\n

If you feel you need to write the harder stuff. DO SO. POST IT. Then ORPHAN the STORY. That is what that function is there for.\u00a0<\/p>\n

I have been through my history multiple times over the last week and I realised that there were over 40 bookmarks JUST GONE.\u00a0<\/p>\n

40. GONE.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

ACCOUNTS DELETED.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

GOOD WORKS.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Hard stuff, light stuff, the silliest crack.<\/p>\n

It makes my heart break.<\/p>\n

If you ever feel like deleting your account on AO3, please, please consider orphaning it instead. (Yes you can do that!) \u00a0It goes into a slush \u2018orphan-account\u2019 area and works are still posted just in a completely orphaned capacity.\u00a0<\/p>\n

I will risk it.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Even if I am left writing the words down only for myself.\u00a0<\/p>\n

I wish others would be more vocal about the abuse that is becoming rampant in the fandom. I am only one voice. And a small one, I do realise.\u00a0<\/p>\n

But I will still take a stand every time.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Because no abuse is ever okay.<\/p>\n

Even if Fandom is not the safe space I state that it is, that still does not make it ok to say things in this manner. It is not ok ever.\u00a0<\/p>\n

There comes a time where you chose a line to walk. I chose mine when I began writing again.\u00a0<\/p>\n

I will, if I can help it nurture and encourage always.\u00a0<\/p>\n

I HATE having to be this pissed, but this unacceptable.\u00a0<\/p>\n

I will take what bit of the fandom I can and wrap it in angel feathers and fucking candy floss if I have to and then<\/em> blacklist, contact AO3, go to Tumblr, make noise over it through the fandom because this callousness has taken root.<\/p>\n

And again, it is unacceptable.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

This is fucking ridiculous. I’ve been lucky, I guess, I haven’t got many bad comments. The only semi-bad one I did get though nearly made me not write a particular pairing ever again.<\/p>\n

Also there are tags. Read them. I have not read this particular fic and won’t, not because it isn’t wonderful (I’m sure it is, I love all of Tiger’s fics), but because I know I can’t handle major character death. Or super angst.<\/p>\n

But that doesn’t mean folks shouldn’t write it.<\/p>\n

I hate it when I realize a beloved fic is gone. Then I kick myself for not downloading them. Artists need love and care and nurture. Comment, kudos, reblog, drop an ask. We all need that validation. Art isn’t made in a vacuum.<\/p>\n

I strive very very had to avoid the fandom drama. I’m only human though. That said, if anyone needs a safe place, my ask is always open and i’m pretty well always on Skype.<\/p>\n

“Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.”<\/p>\n

Or, if you prefer Vonnegut:<\/p>\n

“There’s only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you’ve got to be kind.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

beautifullyheeled: meanmisscharles: beautifullyheeled: tiger-in-the-flightdeck: Don\u2019t do this. Don\u2019t ever do this. If you like something, fucking say it. Don\u2019t swear at a writer, and tell them you hate them. Someone had to talk me out of deleting my entire fucking ao3 account because of this shit. I haven\u2019t written anything new in months because of … <\/p>\n

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