{"id":174342,"date":"2015-01-01T01:15:04","date_gmt":"2015-01-01T01:15:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/2015\/01\/01\/brinconvenient-feminist-space-darxx\/"},"modified":"2018-09-11T23:24:49","modified_gmt":"2018-09-11T23:24:49","slug":"brinconvenient-feminist-space-darxx","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/2015\/01\/01\/brinconvenient-feminist-space-darxx\/","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"<div id='gallery-1' class='gallery galleryid-174342 gallery-columns-3 gallery-size-thumbnail'><figure class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<div class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/2015\/01\/01\/brinconvenient-feminist-space-darxx\/attachment\/174343\/'><img width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/tumblr_nhe1vkfPQx1qcj6obo1_540-150x150.png\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"\" loading=\"lazy\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/tumblr_nhe1vkfPQx1qcj6obo1_540-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/tumblr_nhe1vkfPQx1qcj6obo1_540-100x100.png 100w\" sizes=\"100vw\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/div><\/figure><figure class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<div class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/2015\/01\/01\/brinconvenient-feminist-space-darxx\/attachment\/174344\/'><img width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/tumblr_nhe1vkfPQx1qcj6obo2_1280-150x150.png\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"\" loading=\"lazy\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/tumblr_nhe1vkfPQx1qcj6obo2_1280-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/tumblr_nhe1vkfPQx1qcj6obo2_1280-100x100.png 100w\" sizes=\"100vw\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/div><\/figure>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/brinconvenient.tumblr.com\/post\/106625997605\/feminist-space-darxx-writingrainbow-one\" target=\"_blank\">brinconvenient<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/feminist-space.tumblr.com\/post\/106619503702\/darxx-writingrainbow-one-of-these-things-is\" target=\"_blank\">feminist-space<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/darxx.tumblr.com\/post\/106606943695\/writingrainbow-one-of-these-things-is-not-like\" target=\"_blank\">darxx<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/writingrainbow.tumblr.com\/post\/106597538106\/one-of-these-things-is-not-like-the-other-rip\" target=\"_blank\">writingrainbow<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>One of these things is not like the other.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>RIP Leelah Alcorn<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>This is so fucked up.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>This makes me so angry. She dishonors Leelah\u2019s identify and memory even in death, pulls attention to herself as the grieving parent, and clearly still doesn\u2019t get that it is her actions and treatments that pushed Leelah to take that step.<\/p>\n<p>RIP Leelah Alcorn.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>God dammit! OK, listen up, my dear trans babies. I know that you\u2019re hurting. Probably hurting a lot like Leelah was, but I want you to see two things here.<\/p>\n<p>Leelah committed suicide because she couldn\u2019t see any way to escape. Her voice was actively silence and her story ignored in favor of a fantasy that her parents wrote. She felt powerless, alone and afraid. That\u2019s because her parents WANTED that for her to make her feel like the only choice available to her was to conform to their narrative. She found a different choice, but one that ultimately gave her parents the final control over her story, her life, and now, her death.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>She realized she couldn\u2019t begin transition until she was at least 18 and legally responsible for her own medical care, and someone gave her the terrible, wrongheaded and dangerous belief that that was TOO LATE to transition and \u201cpass\u201d and find love.<\/p>\n<p>She was wrong. I know many gorgeous and happy trans men women who transitioned in their 20s, 30s, 40s and later and have found the life they always wanted. Please don\u2019t internalize that bullshit that your chances to transition end at 18 or 21 or 25 or 30 or whatever. It\u2019s never too late. Never.<\/p>\n<p>But the real lesson I want you to take from Leelah\u2019s death here is that she\u2019s gone, forever, and even though she did everything she could to make sure that her story was known and heard by queueing up that post, her mother is still ignoring all of that for this fucking bullshit narrative she made up about her darling SON accidentally being hit by a truck on a morning walk, instead of facing the fact that her daughter committed suicide because she saw no other way out.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re feeling like Leelah, alone, afraid, powerless and like there\u2019s a ticking clock counting down your chance to transition, please know that there is no peace in death.<\/p>\n<p>There is no guarantee that your suicide will make anyone see anything they don\u2019t want to.<\/p>\n<p>This mother is still willfully and actively ignoring, denying and mythologizing her child\u2019s life and death. Leelah has finally lost her voice forever. The news articles will fade, the tumblr posts will vanish, and this horrid person will be telling tales about the tragic accident that took her son from her until the day she dies. Her suicide solved nothing for her. She will never see the amazing woman she\u2019d have grown up to be. And neither will her mother.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>The only chance you have to be the narrator of your own story is to stay alive, get out, get away, find your power, find your voice, find your real family &#8211; the people who know you and see you for who you are, people who hear you when you tell your story, people who will defend and protect you at all costs. We are here, waiting for you with our arms and our hearts open. Please, I know you\u2019re in a terrible and seemingly unbearable place and environment. The only comfort I can offer is that the world doesn\u2019t stop turning, time doesn\u2019t stop and this moment isn\u2019t the last moment. Please find a way to bide your time, to hold on for one more day, one more hour, one more minute, though it seems eternal, this moment is temporary.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>I can\u2019t guarantee your future happiness or that your life will be easy, but none of us, trans or cis, get any such guarantee. The only guarantee you get is that if you kill yourself, you\u2019ll NEVER have the chance to find and build a happy life.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Every storm passes, every rain cloud moves on, and nothing in this world is permanent. This pain of your present will become the aches of your past.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Please stay alive. Please hold on until you can escape from there and come home. Our light is on and our door is open.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.translifeline.org\/\" target=\"_blank\">http:\/\/www.translifeline.org\/<\/a><\/p>\n<p>US: (877) 565-8860<\/p>\n<p>Canada: (877) 330-6366<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>brinconvenient: feminist-space: darxx: writingrainbow: One of these things is not like the other.\u00a0 RIP Leelah Alcorn This is so fucked up. This makes me so angry. She dishonors Leelah\u2019s identify and memory even in death, pulls attention to herself as the grieving parent, and clearly still doesn\u2019t get that it is her actions and treatments &hellip; <\/p>\n<p class=\"link-more\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/2015\/01\/01\/brinconvenient-feminist-space-darxx\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"gallery","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[338,9855,4],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/174342"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=174342"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/174342\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":174345,"href":"https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/174342\/revisions\/174345"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=174342"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=174342"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=174342"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}