{"id":148654,"date":"2015-06-23T17:54:22","date_gmt":"2015-06-23T17:54:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/2015\/06\/23\/one-more-bit-of-adulting-advice\/"},"modified":"2015-06-23T17:54:22","modified_gmt":"2015-06-23T17:54:22","slug":"one-more-bit-of-adulting-advice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/2015\/06\/23\/one-more-bit-of-adulting-advice\/","title":{"rendered":"One more bit of adulting advice"},"content":{"rendered":"

agent-barnes-of-shield<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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mllemusketeer<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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newvagabond<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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gothiccharmschool<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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Don\u2019t hate-read. You know what I\u2019m talking about. Are there blogs or people who automatically make you clench your jaw and roll your eyes? Or always trigger a reaction of \u201cOh dear angels and spirits, not them\/this AGAIN?\u201d <\/i>\u00a0Stop reading their stuff. Don\u2019t seek it out, no matter how much ranty entertainment you feel it may be.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Hate-reading is a drain of your time and energy.<\/p>\n

(Note: I am posting this as a REMINDER TO MYSELF, because I fall into that trap, too.)<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Also don\u2019t follow people you can\u2019t stand. Especially if it makes you give in to the urge to send anon hate. That\u2019s not healthy for you or for the other person. It does nothing positive to serve you.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

The way my mom puts it is this: Every time you indulge yourself in hating something, you wear a path in your brain, and it gets easier to fall into it or default to it in other situations. Hating gets easier.<\/p>\n

You should not let hate become an easy thing for you. It will not give you happiness, and it will not give other people happiness.\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

That is actually called self talk and it is scientifically proven. The more you repeat something to yourself, the more your brain creates a pathway and you begin to believe it. Even an innocuous statement like,\u00a0\u2018I\u2019ll punch them in the face\u2019 as a joke, can create that pathway thinking or saying it often enough and before you know it you\u2019ll eventually become a violent person.<\/p>\n

So don\u2019t hate, because you\u2019ll become a hateful person. Instead, use it as a positive:<\/p>\n

-I am healthy<\/p>\n

-I am beautiful<\/p>\n

-I am smart<\/p>\n

-I am worthy of love<\/p>\n

-I am worth taking care of myself<\/p>\n

-I do not deserve hatred even from myself<\/p>\n

Think it often enough and it will become truth\u2026probably because it already was<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

agent-barnes-of-shield: mllemusketeer: newvagabond: gothiccharmschool: Don\u2019t hate-read. You know what I\u2019m talking about. Are there blogs or people who automatically make you clench your jaw and roll your eyes? Or always trigger a reaction of \u201cOh dear angels and spirits, not them\/this AGAIN?\u201d \u00a0Stop reading their stuff. Don\u2019t seek it out, no matter how much ranty … <\/p>\n

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