{"id":142490,"date":"2015-08-05T09:58:23","date_gmt":"2015-08-05T09:58:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/2015\/08\/05\/imakegoodlifechoices-the-hopeful-lark\/"},"modified":"2015-08-05T09:58:23","modified_gmt":"2015-08-05T09:58:23","slug":"imakegoodlifechoices-the-hopeful-lark","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/2015\/08\/05\/imakegoodlifechoices-the-hopeful-lark\/","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"

imakegoodlifechoices<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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the-hopeful-lark<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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tinybro<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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so we have a conversational safeword in my group of friends and it\u2019s great, idk why more people don\u2019t do this. whenever someone wants a subject to be dropped immediately no questions asked we just say\u00a0\u201cspleen\u201d and we stop immediately and it\u2019s a really good way to avoid crossing the line between teasing friends and genuinely upsetting them by accident, or stopping debates from turning into actual arguments<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Wait but no this is actually a brilliant idea.\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

When I was a little baby high school student, I used to do the Living Chessboard at our local Renaissance Faire. We always used \u201cforsooth\u201d to indicate if someone was actually injured and needed to quickly end a choreographed fight. It was also very useful when doing little street improvisations because if someone tried to stop you, you could say \u201cforsooth good sir, I must leave.\u201d and they knew you couldn\u2019t do a scene right then. We all used it in real life too, to say \u201cno really\u201d and it was amazing because there was a word used in a casual setting that meant \u201cI\u2019m not playing, I need you do listen to me.\u201d So if someone tried to pick me up or tickle me, I could say \u201cforsooth stop.\u201d And I was instantly obeyed. I had \u201cforsooth\u201d long before I learned what a safeword was, and having a non-sexual safeword for everyday use amongst a circle of friends was the best thing ever. It made me feel very safe and listened to, even as a tiny 14 year old. Because let\u2019s be honest, 14 year old me was teeny tiny and adorable and it\u2019s easy to coo at kids when they say \u201cno don\u2019t pick me up!\u201d but to have a word that every single person respected to mean \u201cwhatever I say after this MUST be listened to\u201d was amazing. It gave me a definitive voice when it would have been easy to dismiss me. <\/p>\n

So basically having platonic safewords is awesome and I\u2019m all for it. <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

imakegoodlifechoices: the-hopeful-lark: tinybro: so we have a conversational safeword in my group of friends and it\u2019s great, idk why more people don\u2019t do this. whenever someone wants a subject to be dropped immediately no questions asked we just say\u00a0\u201cspleen\u201d and we stop immediately and it\u2019s a really good way to avoid crossing the line between … <\/p>\n

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