{"id":134127,"date":"2015-09-29T07:35:38","date_gmt":"2015-09-29T07:35:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/2015\/09\/29\/doctornerdington-cathexys\/"},"modified":"2015-09-29T07:35:38","modified_gmt":"2015-09-29T07:35:38","slug":"doctornerdington-cathexys","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/2015\/09\/29\/doctornerdington-cathexys\/","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"

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cathexys<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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sincerely-chaos<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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purpleshoeofsex<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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theartofforensics<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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doctornerdington<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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So here\u2019s a thing. Probably tmi, idek. <\/p>\n

In my reading for last week\u2019s conference I came across an article (can\u2019t quite remember the citation right now) that described writing slash as a queer act in and of itself: women (usually) writing erotic fiction in order to get other women (usually) off. <\/p>\n

And I realized that maybe that\u2019s exactly what it is for me. I miss having romantic and sexual interactions with women. I love my husband, but christ, I miss loving women. When I write and post slash for a largely female audience, I\u2019m having sexual interactions (of a sort) with women in a way that doesn\u2019t count as cheating. Women are still a part of my sexual life, in a way. <\/p>\n

Sorry, I hope this isn\u2019t creepy. It feels like an important realization for me.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Reblogging to add:
1. This isn\u2019t all that writing is for me, but I think it\u2019s a pretty big impetus for my slash writing.
2. I always have had a fairly brain-focused sexual life, so this actually makes a lot of sense. Huh.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Thank you, doctornerdington<\/a>!!! It\u2019s not creepy at all, to me. This is something I\u2019ve always felt so alone with and to see you express the same sort of thoughts is so comforting. I too love my husband dearly, but BUT I long for women. To be with a woman again. It\u2019s something so deeply visceral it makes my heart ache when I let myself think about it. I hadn\u2019t thought of my slash writing in this sense, but maybe subconsciously, that\u2019s what I\u2019m trying to do, or how it feels.<\/p>\n

Bless you for having the courage to put this out there. <3<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

I\u2019ve thought of this but didn\u2019t know how to put it into words. \u00a0Yes and yes.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

I often wonder why I am obsessed with the sex lives of two male fictional characters enough to write about their activities\u2026.I suppose on some level it is about the \u2018female\u2019 aspect of it\u2026..my favorite part of all of this is the friendship aspect of it all. The encouragement other female artists are given and just the all around loveliness I have encountered. Also the fact that we can be silly dirty minded people and get to escape our sometimes painful realities and still can have meaningful conversations such as this. Thank you!<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

I read in some article – of course we never remember citations, do we doctornerdington<\/a> – that gay erotica written by women has nothing at all to do with the sex lives of men. It has to do with considering what sex could look like between partners who have no inbuilt power differential, who have grown up expecting to be free and self-determining agents of their own pleasure, who think nothing of asking for what they want and expecting to be a complete and active partner in sexual congress. In other words, men. Even writing lesbian erotica does not fulfill these criteria. It is nothing at all to do with the particular body parts involved, and everything to with how partners treat each other when they automatically consider that the person they\u2019re having sex with is as much a person as they are.<\/p>\n

And that\u2019s HOT.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

This ^<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Yes. I think there\u2019s a lot to be said for this. A LOT.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

OK, since I tend to be citation gal:<\/p>\n

doctornerdington\u2019s essay is more than likely\n<\/p>\n

Lackner, Eden, Barbara Lucas, and Robin Anne Reid. (2006) \u2018Cunning Linguists: The Bisexual Erotics of Words\/Silence\/Flesh\u2019, K. Hellekson and K. Busse (eds) Fan Fiction and Fan Communities in
\nthe Age of the Internet, 207\u201324. Jefferson, NC: McFarland.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

hubblegleeflower\u2019s essay is probably\n<\/p>\n

Lamb, P.F. and Veith D. (1986) \u2018Romantic myth, transcendence, and Star Trek zines\u2019, D. Palumbo (ed) Erotic Universe: Sexuality and Fantastic Literature, 236\u201355, Westport, CT: Greenwood Press.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

And just for good measure, here\u2019s an essay that expands upon the idea of slash as queer female space that was kinda floating around fannish meta spaces in the early to mid 2000s\n<\/p>\n

Lothian, A., Busse, K. and Reid, R.A. (2007) \u2018Yearning void and infinite potential: Online slash fandom as queer female space\u2019, ELN 45(2): 103\u2013111.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Send me an ask if you want a copy of any of them.<\/p>\n

Also, here is an earlier instances post that addresses the imaginary and the real life queer spaces in slash fandom:\n<\/p>\n

hesychasm\u2019s post: http:\/\/hesychasm.livejournal.com\/74060.html<\/a>\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/blockquote>\n

cathexys<\/a> for the win!!!! Thanks so much! Yes, that was it! And more goodies to check out, too.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

doctornerdington: cathexys: doctornerdington: sincerely-chaos: hubblegleeflower: purpleshoeofsex: theartofforensics: monikakrasnorada: doctornerdington: doctornerdington: So here\u2019s a thing. Probably tmi, idek. In my reading for last week\u2019s conference I came across an article (can\u2019t quite remember the citation right now) that described writing slash as a queer act in and of itself: women (usually) writing erotic fiction in order … <\/p>\n

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