{"id":121645,"date":"2015-12-23T23:51:15","date_gmt":"2015-12-23T23:51:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/2015\/12\/23\/intj-confessions-auditorycheesecakes\/"},"modified":"2015-12-23T23:51:15","modified_gmt":"2015-12-23T23:51:15","slug":"intj-confessions-auditorycheesecakes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.merindab.com\/private\/2015\/12\/23\/intj-confessions-auditorycheesecakes\/","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"

intj-confessions<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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auditorycheesecakes<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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onyxjuniper<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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frecklesandsky<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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I just read this super sad post about this girl who\u2019s asexual and married and everyone is basically telling her that she doesn\u2019t deserve her husband\/she\u2019s just a prude\/she should just do it anyway.
\nSo I want to tell you all right now that if people tell you this, or if they tell you you\u2019ll never have a relationship, it is BULLSHIT.
\nMy husband is asexual and I\u2019m not. He\u2019s sex repulsed, we don\u2019t have sex, we never have.
\nAnd it doesn\u2019t matter to me. You know what does? He does. His mental health and wellbeing matter to me. Because he is my best friend and he\u2019s one of the smartest, kindest, funniest people I\u2019ve ever met. And he\u2019s had people tel him that he\u2019s broken and it makes me SO ANGRY because they are WRONG.
\nBeing different doesnt mean you\u2019re broken.
\nIf you don\u2019t like sex\/don\u2019t want it\/etc. Do not let anyone tell you that you\u2019re inferior because you\u2019re not.
\nDo not let anyone convice you that you\u2019ll never have a relationship because they\u2019re wrong(if you want one).
\nYou are not broken, and it will be okay.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

This made me feel really good. Remember this, for all my ace spectrum friends out there<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

#it\u2019s really reassuring to hear from the partner<\/a>\u00a0#the one who\u2019s not ace<\/a>\u00a0#but is totally cool with having no sex<\/a>\u00a0#loves her husband anyway<\/a>\u00a0#is in a stable and happy relationship<\/a>\u00a0#it\u2019s such a relief when you discover that asexuality is a thing<\/a>\u00a0#that you\u2019re okay<\/a>\u00a0#but then you start to wonder if it means your only chance at not ending up alone is finding someone else who\u2019s also ace<\/a>\u00a0#but no<\/a>\u00a0#turns out it\u2019s not<\/a>\u00a0#that\u2019s really good to hear<\/a>\u00a0#so<\/a>\u00a0#thanks<\/a>\u00a0#so ace<\/a>\u00a0#so space<\/a><\/p>\n

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I hope you don\u2019t mind me reblogging your tags but these are my feelings EXACTLY<\/p>\n

I\u2019m always a little nervous that I\u2019m not\u00a0\u201cgood enough\u201d for a\u00a0\u201creal relationship\u201d because sex isn\u2019t on the table. So yeah, these stories are reassuring<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

The amount of pressure from society to have sex is incredible. We\u2019re told it\u2019s linked to relationship health and if you\u2019re not willing to do every damn thing you\u2019re labeled a prude. It\u2019s incredibly disheartening, especially considering how one\u2019s libido can change over the years even if you\u2019re not ace. Nice to see a supportive piece from a partner.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

intj-confessions: auditorycheesecakes: onyxjuniper: frecklesandsky: I just read this super sad post about this girl who\u2019s asexual and married and everyone is basically telling her that she doesn\u2019t deserve her husband\/she\u2019s just a prude\/she should just do it anyway. So I want to tell you all right now that if people tell you this, or if … <\/p>\n

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